Do you carry the pain?
Was your parent clinically diagnosed or did (s)he often behave in ways that were erratic, unstable, permissive or controlling, abusive verbally/physically?
The results of growing up in this environment are specific and carry over into current situations. Relationship issues, anger and anxiety, communication problems, rigidity or permissiveness do not have to impact your present connections.
You can choose to heal the wounds in order to be the person you want to be.
